We all know Valentine’s Day is coming up and I thought I would do something a little different for this post. Last year I shared some gift ideas without breaking the bank, check that out here. For this post, I wanted to answer a few of your questions about loooooove. For those of you who are new to my blog, I have a page called “Chat With Chia” dedicated to you, the readers. My readers can submit questions (anonymously) and I do my best to answer them.
Since there aren’t enough hours in the day to answer all the submissions individually, I’m going to kill two birds with one stone and answer the most common questions I get about love and relationships.
- How can I be less jealous when it comes to my relationship?
Good question! The best way to deal with jealousy is by having great communication. First off, you have to know what makes you jealous. Once you’ve determined that, openly have a conversation with your bf/gf to let them know. Remember your partner isn’t a mind reader. If they don’t know what makes you jealous, they won’t even know they might be doing something to make you jealous. Makes sense? Good! Moving on.
After expressing your feelings, hopefully your bf/gf is willing to reassure you and avoid situations that may lead to you have a full blown jealousy attack. If your partner can’t make you feel secure in the relationship, then it might be bumpy road ahead. On the other hand, you (the jealous one) also have to do your part. Ask yourself why does a situation make you jealous? If you’re being completely irrational, then you gotta check yourself (LOL).
Remember that everybody has the ability to be a better person. So if you value the relationship you, too, have to do your part in keeping the relationship healthy. I’m not saying it’s an easy thing to work on, but it can be done. And it all starts with communicating.
2. Do you believe in the silent treatment?
The good ol’ silent treatment. Yes and no. If Tim and I have gotten into an argument or something has upset me, I prefer to take some time and gather my thoughts before I start saying some irrational shit (which doesn’t happen because I’m incredibly level-headed lol). This isn’t technically the silent treatment because Tim knows I just need time to think and he’ll leave me alone until I’m ready to talk. Whether that be 1 hour or 1 week. He knows to leave me the hell alone! Read about how Tim and I deal with fights here.
If you are truly giving your gf/bf the silent treatment and they have NO idea why, then that’s silly. Remember your partner isn’t a mind reader. If you’re upset about something, tell them! Communication is key!! Can you see the common theme in relationships? Communication. For more of my tips on relationships click here.
3. Do you believe in being friends with your ex?
I can’t see why naaaat. I guess it really just depends how the relationship ended. If it was mutual and both parties wanted to separate then yes, a friendship is a possibility. Sometimes two people just aren’t compatible and are better off with other someone else. It takes two mature people to recognize that and maybe they are better off as friends. Or at least, civil if they see each other in public.
If the relationship ended badly (like cheating), then probably not. If I got cheated on, I’d be deleting every one of their social media accounts, phone number, cutting up photos and more! I definitely wouldn’t be jumping at the chance to go on a friendly sushi date with this person. I would be nice if I bumped into them (because kindness kills), but friends? Naaaahhh.
That sums up my post for today! It was a lengthy one, but I find a lot of my “Chat with Chia” submissions are similar so I might try to do more of these periodically. Also, this way I can also give you a more in depth and thorough answer as opposed to a quick “yes” or “no”.
Let me know how you liked this post. I’d like your feedback!