Let’s chat about bridesmaid dresses and who the hell is going to pay for them. After getting engaged, I went out and bought a couple wedding books and bridal magazines. And of course, I read several online wedding articles and followed all the bridal accounts and blogs. After gathering all my info from different sources I understood that bridesmaids are typically expected to pay for their own dresses. Is that what I’m doing? Mmmmm, nehhhh!
When I proposed to my 4 bridesmaids last year (read my proposal post here), I knew I wanted to treat my girls like queens because I’m honored they all said yes to be a part of my special day. With the wedding being in California, my bridesmaids are already spending hundreds of dollars on flights, accommodation, and all the other expenses of travelling. Not only do I want this to be the best day of my life, I want this to be a memorable day for them, too.
Am I a millionaire to be able to afford their dresses? No, but I know how to budget so that I could. Truth be told, I’m also just a perfectionist. If I fell in love with a dress (that may be a little expensive), I could never burden my girls with the price. Even though I’m paying for my bridesmaid’s dresses, that doesn’t mean I chose whatever the hell I wanted. We chose together. Taking everyone’s thoughts, feelings, skin tone, body shape, and opinions into consideration. Because at the end of the day we all wanted one thing: to be comfortable.
When choosing bridesmaids and having the expectation they will pay for their own dresses, remember that everyone is in a different stage of life. Someone may still be paying for school or have 3 kids. Maybe one of the bridesmaids just bought a house or moved to a new city. The last thing they need is to pay for an expensive ass dress that the bride wants them to wear. And don’t forget the dress is just the beginning. There’s jewelry, shoes, bags, hair, makeup, and all the parties that go along with planning a wedding. Basically, shit can get costly.
Weddings are totally customizable when it comes to who is paying for the dresses. There are no set rules saying you have to do something a certain way. If there’s a 50/50 deal, great! If the bride is paying, sweet! If the bridesmaids are paying, then take into consideration their budget and don’t be a bridezilla. This experience should be fun and no one wants to be stressed. Because extra stress can cause pimples, and who needs that?
How would you handle payment of bridesmaid dresses? Leave a comment below!