I decided to dedicate this post to answering one of my “Chat with Chia” questions about gift giving for the holidays. I have gotten an overwhelming amount of questions about the “protocol” about buying gifts for your boyfriend/girlfriend. It seems as though a lot of my readers are confused about how to feel after both parties have agreed to not exchange gifts. Prepare yourself.
**This is a mock question** for explanation purposes, but very similar to multiple submissions. So for example, “My boyfriend and I have decided to not exchange gifts for Christmas, but I feel like I should still get him something. If I give him something, I don’t want him to feel bad that he didn’t get me anything.” *Insert eye roll emoji here*. I’m sorry to roll my eyes at some of you, but you’re honestly just making things so complicated when it doesn’t need to be.
Time to clear up the blurry picture you just painted. If both parties have agreed to not exchange gifts, why the heck would you still buy a gift?! This is why you established you weren’t buying gifts in the first place! I honestly feel like not exchanging gifts is a great idea! Go for dinner and a movie instead. Have you seen Moana yet?! It’s so good. I cried like 8 times.
On the other hand, if you genuinely want to give your partner a present for Christmas because you know they’re gonna love it, then do it (no strings attached)! No strings attached means you can’t get upset when you don’t get a gift in return. Hence the word, “genuine”.
Tim and I don’t exchange gifts for Christmas. I find it totally overrated and incredibly stressful. Especially when I know Tim has everything in the world and the things he doesn’t have, he’ll buy tomorrow (plus more). This might sound corny, but just seeing each other is gift enough for us. Especially with being long distance.
Don’t get me wrong, of course we buy things for each other but in a more casual way. For example, I’ll be in a store and see something and think “Oh! Tim would love this!”. Then I’ll text him and say, “I got you something!”. I like that kind of gift giving better. Also, haven’t you noticed when you’re actually looking for the perfect gift, you can’t find it. Then when you aren’t looking for it, you find it! Life has a way of doing that for many things.
Whether you exchange gifts or not, just follow your own rules and don’t complicate the holidays. Just enjoy spending time with one another and go see Moana. It’s the best!