January 24 is National Compliment Day! Yay!
If you’re taking the time to read this post then do me a favor k? Go compliment someone. Right now! GO, and then come back. Go tell your mom her cooking is amazing or tell your dad his cooking is amazing. Shit girl, tell yourself your cooking is amazing. In a world full of so much negativity we forget to remember the good things. We are so quick to judge someone just by looking at them without knowing their story. It doesn’t take long to scroll through comments on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube to find a nasty comment. Why? It’s a lot easier to tear down someone than to compliment them and it’s so easy to sit behind a computer screen and talk some shit on the internet. I’m definitely no celebrity, but I’m familiar with nasty comments (and the block button lol).
The hardest thing about dating someone in the limelight (read about my boyfriend here) is there’s no way to escape these comments. With his life being online, comments are everywhere. Even if you try not to pay attention to them, they’re in our face and of course you’re going to read a few. It’s always hard reading something insulting until you realize how insecure somebody has to be in order to call a complete stranger ugly, fat, or stupid. They are internet bullies, plain and simple. The main goal of a bully is to get a reaction out of you, but you shouldn’t give them the reaction they want. Instead of starting an online feud with theses people, the better reply is an encouraging, positive one. Killing people with kindness is seriously the best. It works a thousand times better than being nasty and hopefully encourages people to change their ways.
The first several months of dating my boyfriend he never showed me on camera because I was so uncomfortable with the idea of being on YouTube. I had to prepare myself to handle the realness of the Internet and with a few mean comments here and there, I developed a thick skin. It took me awhile to be able to overlook negative comments and remember that whoever is sitting on other side is unhappy, lonely and most likely really young.
Not only is the Internet full of such trash, it’s everywhere and even within you. It’s natural to stare in the mirror and list out features we hate about ourselves. “My eyes are two different sizes.”, “My nails are short and ugly.”, “My stomach isn’t flat.”, “I hate my curly hair.” STOP, stop cutting yourself down. Do you know how much we impact our own self-esteem by doing that? You will never be happy with yourself if all you have to say about yourself are negative things. Of course there will always be something we want to change about ourselves (it’s natural!), but what about the things that are already great? Do we ever address those qualities? Are you smart? Are you easy to talk to? Do you have good friends? Do you like your outfit today? It’s easier said than done, but let’s take baby steps in making ourselves feel better. When we feel better about ourselves, we see how great we are and how great other people are. It all starts from within!
It doesn’t happen that easy, but imagine if we constantly complimented each other and as a result there was nothing but good vibes everywhere. For example, when somebody compliments your makeup, instead of just saying, “Thank you!” try saying, “Thank you! I love your hair!” So that way we are giving and receiving all at the same time. It’s actually quite contagious! You’d be surprised how amazing you feel once you start to surround yourself with good energy and great people. It’s like you’ve turned into a super hero and you’re ready to conquer the world! I know I already told you to go and compliment somebody, but go do it again! GO. Now that you’ve done it twice, try to keep up the momentum! =)
Go look in the mirror and say one positive thing about you.
I like the color of my skin. What’s your compliment to yourself?