Saying Goodbye

For those of you who are just tuning into Just Peachy, I’ll give you a little background on my relationship before we start. I’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, Tim, and we’ve been in a long distance relationship for 4 1/2 years. To read full deets about how we met, read My Love Story post here. I get a lot of questions asking if saying goodbye ever gets easier as time goes on. One thing that you need to remember is that everybody’s relationship is different. Normalcy will have a different definition from one person to the next and this post is about me sharing my personal experiences/opinions with you. If you don’t understand it, that’s perfectly fine with me!

So to answer this question for you, yes, saying goodbye totally got easier for us as our relationship continued. In the early stages, I can remember spending hours crying because I knew as soon as the sun rose it was time to go to the airport. I would cry all night, cry all morning, and cry all the way to the airport. I would cry saying goodbye, cry going through security, sitting at the gate, and even as I sat in my seat on the plane. I know some people in my life that can let out a good cry, wipe their tears, and they look completely normal! Umm…yeah no, that’s not me. My eyes get SO puffy, my face gets super blotchy, and the worst part is I always get an intense headache that lasts for what seems like forever. I want to say that these goodbye crying episodes lasted for a couple years, I think. A year for sure and some change.

In my eyes the reason why saying goodbye was so hard, was because the relationship was fresh and you hope everything is going to stay the same until the next visit. The early stages of long distance (0-12 months) is when you’ll figure out if long distance is even for you. It’s super challenging and some couples will decide to call it quits because they can’t handle it. So every time it’s time to say goodbye, it’s a risk you take and there might not be a next visit. For my relationship, clearly there was a next visit. Once we got passed the early stages, and our relationship grew more secure the worries went away. We both knew that long distance was just an obstacle we had to face in order to be with each other and we accepted our situation. I’m committed to him and him to me, so saying goodbye became incredibly easy because we knew there would be a next time!

We went from Tim parking his car, carrying all my bags, walking me to Check-In and waiting until I went up the escalator to security, to us rushing to LAX and Tim pulling up to the curb with a quick kiss and a “See you later!” LOL. I honestly love how our relationship has evolved, it’s the best!  We have grown so much over the last 4 years together and I couldn’t picture myself tackling this long distance life with anyone else. #aww

How do you handle your long distance goodbyes?