Welcome to my chat room!
If you’ve already read my About Me post you know I’m no stranger to questions. I’m used to answering questions on my Twitter and Instagram about anything and everything. It’s such a cool experience to have people take an interest in my life and even cooler to allow me to help you in your life!
I’ve created a page dedicated to you. Submit a question about anything you like and I will do my best to answer as many as I can. If you’re thinking about sending a question that’s completely disrespectful and ignorant, don’t. There’s no room for that. Ready, set, go! I’d love to hear from you.
*Disclaimer- I am not a professional therapist or doctor of any kind. These are just my personal opinions.
Q: Lately I’ve been finding myself getting mad because he has other stuff to do and I know I shouldn’t be but I guess I just want his undivided attention, what can I do to stop myself from getting so mad? Thank you so much!!
A: Get a hobby girl! Fill your time with other things like work, friends or exercise. Your life doesn’t have to wait around your boyfriend’s schedule!
Q: I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year now, but I recently I’ve been realizing that I’ve been relying on him for my happiness. I’ve decided to take time off while still being committed to him, but is there any advice you could give as to how you can find happiness on your own? Find confidence? Thanks beautiful!
A: Well hello! In order to be happy you have to know what makes you happy. Find out what that means to you, then do it! Once you’re happy, the rest of history.
Q: I like how close we are, but I don’t want to start something on the next level and then something unfortunate happens and we don’t work out and our friendship won’t be what it was before. What should I do?? Thx.
A: What’s the rush?! Let it flow!
Q: We had a talk about it, almost broke up because of it, i talked to her again, gave her some alternatives and the conversation ended up with her being like ” i need some time to think and process things”. None of us want this to end because we have been through a lot together and we mean a lot for each other, but things dont really look well to be honest. Thanks for your time and advice.
A: Thanks for writing me! It can be hard figuring out relationships while you’re also figuring out your own situation. There’s nothing wrong with stepping back to let things sink in. Everybody has their own way of processing things to make the most level headed decision possible.
Q: Do you have any tattoos?
Q: Ever have any drama dealing with female friends? If so how did you deal with it?
A: I don’t have much drama to be completely honest! I steer clear of all that. If however, something does pop up, then I just handle the situation accordingly. I don’t enjoy confrontation, but I’m one for talking things out and settling things that way.
Q: Do you think us women should know what goes on their man’s financial situation and control what they spend n not spend?
A: I didn’t include the first half of this question, but rest assured I did read it. I personally don’t think it’s necessary to “control” what your partner spends. That just sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. However, if you are planning on building a life with this person it would be a good idea to have a financial plan for the future (buying a house/starting a baby).
Q: If you don’t mind talking about it, I was wondering what your previous relationship was like?
A: I don’t mind at all! It was young and immature! It lasted about 4 years (off and on) and was a great one for me to learn from. I think most people can relate to a relationship like that. Don’t you think?
Q: I have two questions: (1) after a break up, can the same two people get back together again (years later) and have a better relationship than the first or should they just leave it alone? (2) question: I have been trying to get my screenplay looked at by a person in Hollywood that can get it picked up. I don’t know anyone and I was wandering if you could pass it on to Tim for me to see if he knows anyone or has any connections?
A: I totally think that 2 people can get together after spending some time apart. A lot can happen after a break up! If it’s meant to be, it will be!
As far as your screen play goes, congratulations! I don’t have much to do with Tim’s business deals, so you’ll have to contact him about that. Sorry!
Q: Yes, y’all live far as hell apart, but you guys see each other regularly. Which is not regular for long distance. Now writing this I see how silly I sound. But I feel like I’m speaking from a kind of jealous perspective being an army wife. I don’t know it’s just a little weird to me, I expect a little sass back but it’s understandable:). Anyways! I’m so happy that we can hear more of you and maybe some videos. You know we all want those!!!
A: Hello! Thanks for writing me. I totally understand what you’re saying, but every relationship is different and can’t be compared. I appreciate your perspective, though!
Q: What are your favourite tv shows and movies? 🙂 love you!
A: Love you back! I love anything on the E Network, One Tree Hill, Stranger Things, Prison Break to name a few! I love Lord of the Rings, Fast and Furious series, and SuperBad to name a few. I love soo many shows and movies that it would be impossible to name them all!
Q: I’m really into any and everything that has to do nails. I’ve become good at it by watching YouTube videos and practicing every chance I get. But now I want to take it to the next level. Do you have any suggestions on finding the right school. Most schools just teach the basics but I want to learn it all even different nail art techniques.
A: Honestly, the schools in my area only teach the basics. Once you’re certified there are several seminars you can attend and learn different techniques. A lot of the times you can just teach yourself, but before you do that you should have an understanding on proper application. Then the fun can begin!
Q: Hey Chia!
I love reading reading how independent you are and how confident you are in yourself. I admire that about you so much because it’s something that I myself struggle so much on.
My question then is how do find so much confidence within yourself?
A: Hey, thanks for writing me! I’ve always been a confident person, but a lot of it has to do with loving how your life is going and becoming the person you’ve always imagined yourself becoming. I have a great career, great boyfriend, and live a fast-paced life. It drives me to always be better and I love that.
Q: Hey Chia! I was wondering if you believe in weight lifting and stuff especially girls who are like extremely muscular?
A: I love lifting weights! It’s the best way to get lean giiiirl. I’m not into body building though, if that answers your question!
Q: Chia! Do you have po box by any chance? 🙂
A: Hey! I don’t! Send me an e-mail and I can forward you Tim’s po box if you’re interested =)!
Q: What are your favorite body washes and products to use ?
A: Great question. I love Satsuma from The Body Shop and a Lavender and Chamomile body wash from Bath and Body Works!
Q: Hey Chia, I was just wondering how painful waxing really is. Thank you for your time, love you! 😍
A: What are are we talking about? Some areas are more painful than others, but it’s tolerable! If you’re concerned about the pain then take a couple Advil before your appointment!
Q: Hi Chia, what are your thoughts about thinking on getting facials/extractions at 18 years old? Lol, I’m not sure if it’s sort of ‘too young’ to think about it…… My face isn’t very clear, and I’m been struggling with blackheads on my nose….. Please give some advise. Thank you!!
A: 18 isn’t young at all! It’s the perfect time to start caring for your skin. You should visit a skin care specialist to get you on track!
Q: Any thoughts on rebounding after a relationship?
A: My thoughts are…do whatever you want to do lol. Live your single life to the fullest!
Q: Hi Chia, I was wondering if I could get some input on my current situation. I am in a long-term relationship and we’ve kind of hit a rough patch. We don’t have many problems and love being with each other and we’re very honest and open with each other. A few weeks ago he had voiced to me that he was scared because he started to question his feelings and sometimes they would fade and come back. We both still love each other, and we’ve both been working hard to make the relationship work and find that spark again. I guess my question is, have you or anyone you know ever been through something similar and has it ever resulted in a stronger, healthier relationship? My past relationships just ended badly, so naturally I am very scared and insecure while doing my best to seem strong and confident.
A: Hey girl heeey,
As shitty as this situation is for your relationship at least the honesty is strong. I will tell you one thing and you should always remember. Never, ever compare your relationship to others. The struggles of one couple will not a struggle of another. Focus on your own relationship for better or for worse. I can understand that your apprehensive about the future of your relationship, but it’ll work out if it’s meant to be worked out.
Q: Hey Chia! I’m looking for some good date ideas.. other than movies, what are some good places to take a girl on date or things to do? p.s. it’s a new friendship.
A: Hey! How fun and exciting! What about an arcade, mini golf, a picnic, airboarding, bike riding, fly a kite, go karting! There are literally SO many things!!
Q: Others have told me to start my own blog, or Youtube channel, but I’m just too scared!!!(really just embarrassed of what the kids at school will think of me. Hey, Being a 17 year old girl is tall not to mention I’m 5’10” lol).
Do you think I should just go for it? Should I think of back up careers? AHHHHHHHhhhhh.
Much Love, A.
A: GIRL. Follow your dreams and DO IT! People will always have their opinions, yours is the only one that truly matters. =)
Q: Heyy Chia! Have you thought about selling any merch? Perhaps tshirts/posters/snapbacks/etc. that say ‘justpeachy’? I love your style and would totally be interested in getting something!
A: Maybe one day!
Q: If you don’t mind me asking, do you ever get upset clients? If so, what’s your way of dealing with them? I’ve been getting a lot of upset people lately over the simplest things.. BTW, I love ya!
A: I don’t mind at all! I’ve been super fortunate to have amazing cilents and they’re always excited to come and get their nails done so my appointments are always fun. The best thing you can do with upset clients is try to understand what they’re saying, fix the problem, compromise if you have to, and move on. Keep in mind that some people will find anything to complain about, in that case just smile and do what you have to do to make them happy lol. Within reason of course. Customer service can be tough…just do your best.
Q: hey Chia , so I’ve just recently had my heartbroken by this guy that I just kept going back to even though he wasn’t treating me right and I’m just having a hard time letting go even though I know I should and that’s what I really want to do its just really hard for me sometimes….any advice?
A: Move the eff on! Do you think you deserve that? Use your head and not your heart on this one.
Q: I like texting and talking, but just not 24/7 or when im hanging out with people. Is that a bad sign? How often do you and Tim text/talk/facetime etc.?
A: Hey! Thank you for the long time support, you’ve been following Tim along for quite awhile. Tim and I talk ALWAYS because we know communication is important for our relationship. It’s not a bad sign that you don’t want to talk to her 24/7, that’s totally normal. Have you told her how you feel? If she truly wants to make your soon to be long distance relationship work then she should understand! Remember that how much you communicate if different for every relationship, don’t compare it to anyone else’s. Focus on yours. Keep me posted. =)
Q: He doesnt really seem to be making effort holding a conversation and ther only thing he asks is “how are you?” “how was your day” then the convo ends.
i need a perspective on this. i really like him, but idk if i should continue things with him. thanks so much in advance, and as always, your blog is dope i love it so much xoxo
A: I didn’t attach this entire question because it’s lengthy, but I really don’t think it’s that big of a deal! Some people just aren’t text or phone call people. Especially if everything is cool while you ARE together. I’d forsure bring it to his attention though because clearly it kind of irritates you. Don’t assume that he knows you’re upset, speak up mama! If he knows you feel this way maybe he’ll make more of an effort. <3
Q: What does it mean when a guy says there is no chemisty anymore? I didn’t give up the goods and I’m not too touchy feely. Could this have played into it? Thank you Chia for all your help! Sorry for my long message. Trying to restore the peach back in my life.
A: I can understand why you’re totally bummed, especially because you really liked the guy. Does it have anything to do with not “giving it up”, maybe. But maybe it didn’t. Depends on what he said to you. Either way it ended for a reason and maybe it’s for the better. Read my post about breaks ups. I’m sure it’ll help make sense of this situation. Chin up, girl! Move on. =)
Q: I really see this becoming an ongoing thing with us visiting each other. It’s a two hour flight, and eleven hours by car. I’m 23 and I’ve never been on an airplane, do you have any tips for me
A: Awwww! That’s adorable- go girl. Umm…be safe… follow your heart…and BE SAFE.
Q: Where did you get your backpack from the LDR post?
A: From a random store in Singapore!
Q: So me and my ex broke up a few days ago..we both love each other but his dad does not approve the age difference. We both love each other every much but how can you just be friends when you’re madly in love with the other person?
A: Sadly, sometimes you can’t.
Q: Hey Chia, I need someone to talk to about this. I’ve been in a relationship for over a year. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m a naturally jealous person. My boyfriend used to have the hots for one of his female friends and she turned him down – then he’d get the hots for her again and she’d turn him down. Now he’s with me and I get very insecure about him hanging out with her because it feels like he’s settling, you know? I feel she could just turn around and go, “oh I like you now” and he’ll just leave me for her. I’ve voiced this to him and he’ll reassure me but I’m okay to feel like this… right?
A: Hmm…maybe I’m not getting the full story, but is he openly expressing his feelings for this girl while dating you? Because I would not be down with that. If he’s reassured that he wants to be with you (yet still hangs out with this girl)… you should reconsider your situation. You never want to be somebody’s plan B. That’s just how I feel.
Q: Hi Chia, I just want to say I love watching you in Tim’s blog, you’re such a down to earth person!
My question is, how do you do you without caring about what other people think. I feel like I struggle with this. I love make up and fashion and I use to post it on my instagram, then I deleted it because I feel like I can’t compete with all these other gurus and also because I didn’t want to annoy my friends with all my post. So I delete my instagram.. my third one. I passionately love doing makeup and getting dress up and being able to share it to the world, but I was too scared of all the negative judgement. So how do you do you and not care? Love you Chia!
A: Hello person! Girl, the thing about makeup, fashion, (really any field that’s creative), is that people will ALWAYS judge. What one person loves, one person hates. You just have to stand behind the things that YOU love and be proud of it! I promise you someone else will love it just as much. Stop deleting your Instagrams and let your creativity floooooow.
Q: Hi Chia!! What kind of coffee do you drink?
A: I mainly drink black coffee from just about anywhere. I prefer McDonald’s, but I’ll take anything lol. When I wanna treat myself I’ll add a little coffee and soy, because I’m lactose intolerant!
Q: Hi chia! You beautiful soul!
So my question, (is really more advice), my husband is in the Navy and is currently stationed in Japan. I’m still in California because I’m going to school for RN and all that! So we go a long time without seeing each other and our communication and trust is amazing! Or else I wouldn’t of married him! Lol, but my question is I try to send him care packages every 1-2 months but I wanna send cute stuff! But honestly I run out of ideas! So if you could help me shooting some cute ideas my way, you would help out tons! You’re so amazing by the way! I love your soul! Hope you have a great day! <3
A: Wow! This is major long distance. You should send me an e-mail!
Q: My boyfriend of over a year has this friend. This friend is a girl. A girl who he’s grown up with and is a family friend. He’s had feelings for this girl in the past but she kept shooting him down. My boyfriend is very spiritual and free loving and so is this other girl so they cuddle sometimes. My boyfriend doesn’t think it’s a bad thing that they sometimes cuddle together on his bed or her bed or whatever. Because it’s what they’ve grown up doing. But I’m jealous, Chia 🙁 So jealous
A: UM… spiritual or not, if this crosses the line for you then you need to address the issue. If he’s willing to understand and consider your feelings, great. If not…well then I know what I’d be doing. Movin’ on faaashoooo.
Q: Hi chia so my ex whats to get back together with me after he cheatted should i say yes or no ps he got me flowers and a ring plz help?
A: My opinion is…no, don’t be less than smart. If you want a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you right, that’s on you mama.
Q: Hi Chia! This isn’t a very deep question but I know you’ll be able to help me! I get a gel mani about every 2 weeks but that’s where I max out. For the life of me I CAN’T get my gel to last longer than 2 weeks, and while I realize that’s a much longer lifespan than regular nail polish, other people who use gel seem like their manis last them 3 or 4 weeks. I moisturize my cuticles like a crazy person and I file my nails when they need it but nothing seems to help. Is there anything you can suggest?
A: Hi Anna! That’s totally normal for some people. I see A LOT of ladies daily maintaining their nails and what you have to realize is…everybody has different nails. Not everybody can go 3-4 weeks with their nails (depending on the integrity of your own natural nail), if this is something that bothers you than you should consider getting a gel overlay underneath your gel polish.
Hope this helps!
Q: I have really sparse and light eyebrows, like barely anything there with no shape, which is hard right now especially with the trend of eyebrows being “on fleek” but I don’t want to spend a lot of time to fill them in all the time so I was wondering what ways could I naturally grow my eyebrows to be darker/thicker. thanks for the help!
also – love you, and tim, and the blog keep it up!
A: Thanks for the love! Well…this depends how much money you want to spend. You could purchase a brow growing serum, (Sephora should have some…I think) or even invest in getting your brows tattooed on (pricey, though). I’ve seen the result of both and they are amazing! Remember to be consistent with the application of a serum, you won’t see results otherwise.
Q: Hello Chia, A few weeks ago i told my mom that i wanted to study in the beauty industry and she didn’t seem too happy about it. She kept on telling me about my cousin (who studied cosmetology) how she said it was a waste of her time. My mom keeps on telling me to go to a “regular college.” Now everytime she’s talking with my older sibilings she brings up the topic about me & my cousin saying i shouldn’t study that. With the new school year coming up i don’t know what to do. Any advice? Thank You.
A: Hello! Thanks for writing me. I honestly feel like you should follow your heart. If your passion is in cosmetology, then do it! You’ll just have to work extra hard and make tons of money to show your mom it’s worth it! I understand it’s hard to go against your parents word, but at the end of the day they aren’t the ones living your life. You are.
Q: Hi Chia, first of all I just want to thank you for your blog, I love reading all your tips and tricks :)! I have a very random question and was wondering if you could help. I have heard of this home-made face mask which can help remove black heads and facial hair from using gelatine and milk (I hope you’ve heard of this). I have been trying to do some research on how quick the hair comes back (and if it comes back quicker) and unfortunately I really cant’ find anything.
I was wondering if you’ve heard of this or even used it, if you have what was your personal opinion of it
A: I’ve honestly never heard of this, but I’m not surprised. There are so many home remedies and it’s hard to keep up. I mean…what’s wrong with just waxing, sugaring, or laser for hair removal?
Q: Hey Chia?
So Im 20 years old about to turn 21 and I’ve recently started getting acne. I’ve never dealt with acne so I’m not sure on how to go about fixing it.
Do you have any tips on how to cure my acne and/or how to keep it looking healthy ?
A: You should consult a dermatologist. They are professionals that deal with all sorts of skin conditions. If you’re serious about finding a skin care routine that will make a difference in your skin you should start here.
Q: Chia it seems like you and Tim have the best relationship one that is worth say its #relationshipgoals I never had a relationship to look up to. I have bad relationships in the past, I just want to how can I find the right one and how do I know he’s the right one?
A: Honestly, if you go looking for love it will probably take a lot longer. The secret is…love finds you! Your heart will always let you know when you’ve found the one. =)
Q: I loooove youuuuuuuu
– Tim- sitting across from you in Cuba
A: You SNEAAAAKY TIM. Love you back.
Q: Hi Chia?
My boyfriend always says something like “Damn” or “she’s hot” when there’s hot chick on T.V. and it’s ANNOYING. Does Tim ever do that to you? If so or if not how would or do you handle something like that?
A: Hey girl! What you have to realize is that there’s nothing wrong with your other saying that someone is attractive. There are millions of beautiful people in the world and I’m sure even YOU think so, too. When Tim and I talk about pretty people it’s like, “That guy is attractive, do you think so?!” And we’ll talk about why they are/aren’t attractive! It’s fun lol. At the end of the day is your boyfriend going to leave you for a girl he sees on T.V? I doubt it, so might as well have some fun with it. You feel me?
Q: Hey Chia, me and my long distance boyfriend recently broke up and it’s been one of the hardest and weirdest break ups I’ve ever had. It’s hard because the reason we broke up was because the time difference is too great for us and we’re both busy all the time with work and soon to be school. We weren’t fighting or anything and we always got along amazingly. And that’s what makes it the weirdest break up too because usually with my exes we broke up because we’re fighting or things just aren’t going good. I really thought/think he’s the one I’m suppose to be with but he doesn’t think we should be together right now with us being so busy because he doesn’t want us ending up hating each other since we can’t spend as much time as we would like to together. We both have said that we still love each other and we will just have to wait and see what happens when our lives aren’t so crazy. It will take 3 years for us to both be done with school and I don’t know whether to just wait and go with the flow because “if it’s meant to be, it will be.” Or should I try to get back with him? I’m just feeling really confused and sad about the whole thing. Hope you can shed some light on the situation. <3
A: Awe, long distance can be so hard. It def sounds like you guys are doing the right thing, though. Maybe you guys aren’t meant to be together at this point in your lives and that’s okay! I don’t think you should get back together unless you’re fully committed to a long distance relationship.
Q: Hey Chia first I want to say your gorgeous!
Soooo I was hoping for some advise…
I like this guy and it kinda looks lie he likes me too…I mean he teases me and stuff!he asked me for my number and we talk a lot…but he hasn’t asked me out!Would it be too much if I ask him instead?i would have but maybe he doesn’t like me that way!
A: Girl, ask him!!! You’ll never know if you don’t ask, and maybe he’s thinking the same thing so just grab the bull by the horns and do it! Well don’t, DO IT, but ask him out!
Q: Hey Chia! Any tips on how to keep your smile looking good? As in how are your teeth so white!
A: Hello. Make sure you floss and brush your teeth everyday! I use a sensitive/whitening toothpaste always and one time I tried to whiten my teeth with those strips, but my teeth are so friggen sensitive it was painful for me. I’ve had braces before, so I always want to make sure to keep them looking good after all that money! And never skip your dentist appointments!
Q: Hey Chia! I was wondering where you get your regular loose fitting tanks from? Specifically the grey one that I notice you wearing!
A: Hello stranger! I honestly buy loose tanks from everywhere, I love them so much! Are you talking about the Amuse one? I got it from amusesociety.com!
Q: Heyooo chia! I was just wondering if you’ve had any laser hair removal done, and if so what’s your experience with it?
P.s – Keep up the good work with your blog, it’s already a huge success 😀
A: Heyooo! Yes, I have had treatments done on my under arms and full Brazilian! It’s been FANTASTIC. F’n hurts, but the results are amazing!! Be sure to do your research and find a great technician that offers consultations. Every hair and skin type is different so you’ll want to make sure you’re a good candidate before investing all the money.
Q: Hey Chia! this may be so weird and not normal, but I really wanted your opinion on staying with someone who loves and wants to be with you BUT also loves and wants to be with someone else.. Just having a hard time finding an answer from within..
A: GIRL. Wake up and smell the coffee! You ain’t no plan B! Look out for yourself mama…
Q: Hey! First off, let me say I absolutely ADORE you and I have ever since you popped up on YouTube. I’m currently in college, but I’m not sure it’s working out too well. I was wondering if there’s a lot of financial stability in being an Estetician? I know you said that like you apprenticed for your aunt but I have like ZERO family into it haha. Thanks in advance and I LOVE your blog!
A: Girl, thank you! Of course there is! Takes hard work, though! You might find it beneficial to work at a salon for a few years, gain experience and clientele. Grind girl, grind!
Q: Is it hard taking pictures of yourself? I am using a canon t5 and I’m currently starting my blog. Your pictures look so amazing! How do you usually set up to take your own pictures when no one is around?
A: Congratulations and thank you! A tripod will be your best friend, ever!!!
Q: Cheated on my girlfriend. She’s dating my so called “bestfriend”. How do you feel about this situation?
A: LOL. I don’t even know how to comment on this.
Q: As a person who gets Brazilians a lot and has sensitive skin do you have remedies for ingrown hairs?
A: Lots of exfoliating and sometimes you might have to get in there and pop those suckers!
Q: Can you do a tutorial on how you get your lashes to look so beautiful and long and amazing? ??
A: Maaaaaybe. I use two coats of mascara for a natural look and about 4 coats for a more dramatic look! I naturally have longer lashes so I’ve never needed to have extensions applied. Although, it looks soooo goooood lol.
Q: How do you get ur lashes so long? Do you put anything of them to help them grow? Also what mascara do you use?
A: Luckily, my lashes are naturally long! I do use a product to help them grow called, VidaLash. It’s a product I just started using to maintain my natural lashes! I use Cover Girl’s Lash Blast for volume!
Q: Since you work in the industry as an esthetician, would you say it’s a hard area to get into and is it a fun career?
A: For me it came very naturally. Everything takes hard work and dedication! It’s the BEST job I’ve ever had. I love it to pieces!!
Q: How do I tell a girl I like her ?
A: Say, “Hey, I like you!”
Q: I’ve been seeing him for 6 months and we’ve been through so much(previously)…. I think I’m losing feelings for him but I don’t want to just throw it all away.
A: GIRL. Wake up! If you’re losing feelings clearly something has changed. Read my break up post. Perhaps it will give you some insight.
Q: Do you think flirting through text with another person even though you have a BF/GF, is considered cheating? (Currently going through something very similar)
A: There is definitely some bad intent if this is going on (to me anyways). I’m sure if you ask this question to another person they might tell you something different. To each their own, really.
Q: Hi Chia!! How are you with Tims mom and dad? are you guys close? is he close with your parents?
A: I am FANTASTIC with Tim’s parents. They are so incredibly funny and laid back! He gets along with my family perfectly! One big happy family!
Q: Hi Chia, what’re your thoughts on friends with benefits relationships?
A: I mean…I don’t have ’em, but ayyye! For those that do…do you boo boo!
Q: I’m worried that he may leave me…I mean we talk single everyday…literally through text but I just don’t know, am I overacting? What should I do? I don’t want to break up with him because I love him…I’m in love with him.
A: Why would you think he might leave you?! If you two really want to make it work, you will!
Q: What would you say keeps you and Tim relationship strong ?
A: Love, communication, and trust.
Q: If you could have children ,what would be the first name that would come to mind?
A: I can’t tell you! You’re just gonna have to wait and find out…=)
Q: He still wants to be my friend but continues to ask to be intimate with me and it gives me mixed singals….I just dont wanna say screw him and leave him out to dry but I feel he deserves it.
A: Well, I certainly can’t tell you what to do…but sounds like you should go with your gut on this one. Have you read my birthday post, I mention knowing your self worth. It’s only something you can decide for yourself.
Q: I have dark scars around my mouth due to laser and also nair. I was wondering if you have any solution on how to heal the scarring?
A: Oh no! You may have to visit a dermatologist for scarring treatments.
Q: How do you do your hair before you go to bed? Do you just leave it out or do you have a nighttime routine for your hair?
A: I typically just put some coconut oil in it and bunch it into a clip somewhere on top of my head! I try not to sleep with a pony tail in it because it can cause breakage.
Q: Can you please tell me where you got that flower decor on your wall?!! And what wall paper or paint did you use on your wall on the recent pic on Instagram? Its the pic with you telling us , how to deal with breakups. I’m loving the dark strip wall, please tell me how you did that !
A: I actually MADE that flower art on my wall. I’ve gotten so many requests on it so I will do a post about how I did it! As far as the paint on my wall goes… I used flat and high gloss sheens of the same paint colour to create the look. I can also do a post on this! Stay tuned!
Q: What’s the most expensive present you’ve ever bought someone?
A: Ummmmm, a MacBook!
Q: Hi Chia! First of all, from one female to another, I think you are absolutely gorgeous! You always my wcw! Lol, That being said, your skin seems so flawless to me. What is your skincare routine? And I also have acne scars! Do you know if there is any way to rid of those pesky things? Thanks, Love ya girl!
A: Love ya back! I will do a few posts about my skin care routine. Scarring should be looked at by a dermatologist. They can offer you more solution than I could.
Q: I have been threading my own upper lip since I were 13-14. I noticed that right before I got 14, I delevoped this crazy and unexplainable green/grey pigment on my upper lip which is very noticable. It is very comparable with the pigment men get on their upper lip because they shave, you know?
I strongly think it’s because I remove the hairs on my upper lip. Waxing causes the same problem for me. I have read on the internet that girls with tan skin (Indian-ish skin) a bit like you, (I have it too) deal with this problem more often. Also, I haven’t always stayed out of the sun 24 hours after threading. Maybe this is a thing? I have no idea! I’m desperate! Do you know something about this? Ever heard something like this? What do I do now? I’ve been having it for years and still waiting for a miracle and for it to dissappear one morning when I wake up. Oh God what we tan skin girls have to go through! Uuuuuuuugggghhhh!! I hope you can help me
A: Interesting. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of something like this before. I would recommend you see a doctor or a dermatologist. I’m not a doctor, so I’m not fit to answer a question like this, especially because I haven’t seen what the area of concern looks like.
Q: If Tim had kids, would you have still proceeded with a serious relationship?
A: Hard to say! It didn’t happen to it’s tough to imagine what that situation might be like. I don’t like to think about “what if” scenerios, because you’ll end up stressing out over something that might not happen.
Q: Hey chia! You are so pretty everytime I watch tims vlogs I feel like I’m his family because I’m mixed with Thai also! But when you and Tim did long distance the first few months were you insecure like he might talk to other girls ?
A: No! I wasn’t because a) I’m not a jealous or insecure person, and b) I wouldn’t rush into a relationship if you still had the notion he might talk to other girls.
Q: I love and respect you so much, Chia! My question for you is, I just read your post on nail chipping. See, I don’t have a problem with CHIPPING, but whenever I get my nails done a lighter color, the color starts turning this icky yellowish really soon after I get them done. I’m clean, I swear! I work retail so I’m constantly washing and sanitizing my hands. I as wondering if you had any tips to either prevent that or remove it?
A: Thanks for the support girl, I appreciate it so much! Okay listen up. Light colors are extremely porous, meaning they will absorb many different pigments. Right after your nail appointment, go straight home and apply a thin coat of a regular top coat. By doing that you are creating a shield and protecting the color. If and when you notice them staining/changing color, I want you to use nail polish remove and remove that thin top coat you applied. Because your actual gel polish is sealed in, the nail polish remove won’t affect the light colour. By removing the thin top coat, you’re also removing the staining. You’ll then apply a NEW thin top coat to keep the gel polish safe and protected. Repeat this process as many times as you need to do until your next appointment. Light colors are great, but shit are they high maintenance. Good luck!
Q: Hey Chia! How have you grown to be such an all-round person?? 😮 You have a great profession, into health and fitness, amazing at flip cup, great sense of humour aaaand you stay hairless aha. Chilee, just h.o.w?
A: Haha awe thanks! Girl, I don’t know! I think everyone can work at becoming a better person! Improvements can always be made. =)
Q: I was wondering how do you deal with acne? I have a lot of acne scars and I was wondering what skin products and masks do you recommend? and also I think you are really beautiful and amazing!!!! <3 😀
A: Scarring is definitely something you should talk to a dermatologist about and typically requires more than just a product. If you still suffer from acne break outs they should recommend something to help control it.
Q: I never know any good birth controls to use?
A: You should talk to a doctor. Everyone’s body is different and sometimes responds to methods differently. Your doctor should help inform you and get you on the right track!
Q: Hey Chia! Have you ever thought about what you would want to become if you didn’t become an esthetician? Like what was your second best choice?
A: I went to school for interior decorating, so probably that. I also loooooved everything about marine biology.
Q: What is your go to outfit for everyday?
A: Oh man. I love baggy hobo fits. Leggings with a loosey sweater or V-neck. Mmm, the life!
Q:What is a dish that you could eat everyday if you could?
A: Hash browns and eggs. I literally do eat this everyday and I love it!
Q: Do you think I should wait until I enter a relationship or just be single for awhile and figure out what I really want?
A: Girl, do whatever the hell you want! As long as your safe, respect your body, and use good judgement. Being single is great to figure out what you want or don’t want in the future.
Q: Hey Chia! I love you and Tims relationship. You are so beautiful . I know Im only 16 but I was with my ex bf since I was 14. I love him very much but a month ago he broke up with me. I just wanted your advice on how to deal with it. I cry alot and feel like the pain will never end. Sometimes Im scared I might stay single forever and will never get over him. Thats scary . But Im pretty sure I need move on . I want a guy thatll treat me better. Can you give me your experience with breakups ? How you dealt with it? And the outcome of it all. Thanks. I look up to you and your opinion means alot? from kentucky
A: Hello, little one! I have a break up post coming on Wednesday so stay tuned! I think it’ll speak right to you and hopefully it can help you move on. Try to keep your head up, but don’t be ashamed to cry…it’s good the soul. <3
Q:HI CHIA! Just wanted to say how much I am enjoying your blog! Also, I am LIVING for the wallart in your most recent instagram post (with the cookie and gummy bears lol). I’ve seen it before in Tim’s vlogs too! Did you make it? Maybe you could do a cool diy post about it if so!! xoxo
A: Thank you so much! I’ve gotten so many requests on that flower wall. Yes, I did make it myself and now I’m gonna have to do a post about it. Stay tuned!
Q: Do you and Tim stay in constant communication? My boyfriend and I were doing the long distance for 2yrs while I was away for school, we would talk, text, and skype as much as possible. But now that I’m home, he says we don’t have to be in constant communication, but I got so used to it that I want to be on the phone with him constantly that lately we have nothing to talk about. He says it’s unhealthy but Idk how I feel about that. Any suggestions?
A: We are in CONSTANT communication all the time. It’s the healthiest thing you can do in your relationship. Little updates throughout the day are great, but keep in mind everyone has a different definition of how much communication is normal. Perhaps it’ll take some time to adjust to your new normal.
Q:So my question is how do you show interest in a guy and how do you know if a guy is interested. We’ve messaged and had convos on fb but I’ve inniated them but he shows interest in our convos. I’m the worst at this kind of stuff and I would love your opinion! -fellow team Capricorn girl.
A: I cut the first part of this question, but it sounds like all the vibes are there! If your conversations flow naturally, then take the plunge and hang out! You’ll know if you’re into him and he’ll show you signs too! Eye contact, subtle touches and laughs are all positive things to send and receive! Trust your gut, good luck!
Q: Chia are your ends naturally straighter then the rest of your hair? I’m just asking because I have curly hair and my ends go straighter then the rest of my hair when they are a little damaged. And then I cut the ends off and they go away. Was just wondering if we had the same type of hair. Wish you the best.
A: Not really, no! If you have those ends and cut them off and they go away, then yes it could be an indication of damaged ends, but sometimes that could just be the natural texture of the hair. Keep up the good work.
Q: Chia who’s eyes do you have? Moms or dads??
A: Neither. I am a chameleon! Wait, did I spell that right?
Q: Hey Chia! I just wanna start off by saying you’re amazing and beautiful and I’m so glad you started a blog!!
Sooo, I recently broke up with my first long-term boyfriend of 4 years. Can you share some tips or something on how to get over him? What do I do? How do I keep myself occupied? I can cope during the day, but at night, I am so fracken miserable. Please help!
A: First off, thank you so much! Secondly, I guess the only thing I can say is just continue to occupy yourself. I mean, it’s not entirely terrible if you just let yourself be sad for a bit. It’s healthy and helps us move on. Read books, watch movies, and spend time with your friends/family. What hobbies do you have? This is where that comes into play.
Q: Hi Chia,
I know this question is kinda out there but what is your personal opinion on abortion ? Do you believe in pro choice or that it is something you wouldn’t ever consider ?
A: Tough question. It’s hard to know what the right answer is because I’m not in a situation to decide. Everyone has situations and things get very complicated either way you go, but I guess what I’m saying is… I really don’t know.
Q: Which leads to my question, did you hire someone to design your blog site? Or did you use Word Press to built your own?
A: I definitely had some help designing my blog and yes I am using WordPress. I tried to do it myself and failed miserably. Research some platforms options that are best for you! It doesn’t have to be so complicated, but I’m just a complicated ass girl.
Q: Hey Chia! Just read your “Canadian Winter” post and had a question. I’m from Cali and I’m visiting family in Manitoba real soon. As a fellow Californian, I don’t know how to dress for Canadian winters haha. I think I can layer enough sweaters and jackets, but I’m stumped on what kind of boots/shoes to wear. Do you have any suggestions or recommendations? Thanks!
A: Welcome to Canada, lol! I assume you don’t have any boots of any kind and I’m sure you aren’t going to buy a pair just for your visit. My best suggestion is to wear warm socks! Double up if you have to and just wear your regular shoes. I imagine you aren’t going to be going to winter talks in Manitoba, so just run quick to and from the car!
Q: Hi Chia! Have you ever worked in retail before starting your career ?
A: Yes! I worked in a department store during high school and even after high school. It helps with your people skills and helloooo…the discount was great!
Q: Hi chia.. I know this could get a little personal but I kinda want to know your opinion. I’m 23 now and I’m still a virgin. A lot of my friends have already lost their v card and I’m the last one. I know my boyfriend really wants to do it and I do too.. But I’m scared of the consequences it could come with. Like it may sound silly, but even though I know we would use protection, I’m scared that there’s going to be that chance that it doesn’t work. Do you think I should wait some more until I’m completely ready?
A: Of course, having sex for the first time is scary. You don’t know what expect, but one thing that you should about is being ready to do it. You never want to feel pressured into something that you are unsure of. Using protection is absolutely vital and there’s nothing wrong with being on another method of protection. Have you considered taking the pill? Also, make sure you are entirely open and honest with your partner. Communication will help ease any doubts in your mind. Be safe, always.
Q: Chia! So I need help. I have a girlfriend and we both just turned 21 and I don’t know what to do. I’ve never been the kind do drink and honestly when girls drink a lot and just go ham. It’s such a turnoff. I’ve had my girl for 4 years and idk what to do because she tells me how her friends and her go out and how she comes home throwing up and she was never like that before. Idk she’s in college so o get that she might want to have fun and I don’t really want to stop her, but at the same time it makes me so uncomfortable and I honestly don’t like hearing her talk about it because it really is to me a huge turn off. Any advice for me?
A: Oh boy. This happens to every young relationship! This is the thing, you guys are still so young and turning 21 is such a big deal! There are so many new experiences that need to be had at that age, so the way your girlfriend is acting is entirely normal. I understand it makes you feel uncomfortable to see or even to hear about her night and how drunk she was, and good for you for recognizing you should let her do her thing, but if it really makes you that uneasy then perhaps you two should sit down and tell her how it’s making you feel. You will either work it out or sadly, move on. Sometime’s people naturally drift apart and that isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Q: Hey Chia, since you are Canadian, do you watch hockey?
A: Absolutely not lol.
Q: How were you able to live on your own at 19 (finance wise)? I am just wondering because I also want to move out but I am scared that it’ll be more of a burden rather than a new opportunity. Were you attending university?
A: Yes, I was in school. I was living off student loans and a loan from the bank. Inquire about student loans and see how much you would qualify for.
Q: are you accepting of the LGBT community ? and thoughts on gay marriage?
A: Yup! I accept all people. Be happy y’all!
Q: Hey Chia! I saw Tim’s new vlog and I wanted to know where did you get your new camera from?
A: I have no idea! Tim got it for me. It’s a Canon T5i and I’m sure you can find those at several places.
Q: If you could have dinner with ANYBODY you wanted (that is alive or passed) who would it be and why?
A: Judge Judy because she’s tha BOMB DIGGITY.
Q: I was wondering if after racking in all those airmiles, if you had a packing routine down? Like are there specific things you put in your carryon? Is there a specific way you pack your suitcase?
A: Yup! Wrote a blog about this the other night, stay tuned for the post!
Q: Are you right or left-handed?
Q: I have to ask, what are your views on deciding not to go to college?
A: Do what you want! Take a year or two off, travel or work. Whatever your little heart desires!
Q: I just wanted to know what’s your advice to a 20 year old girl living in Florida all by herself and not knowing anyone
A: School is a great way to meet people! Be friendly, smile, and optimistic. Join a group or a club, surround yourself with people and remember, you’re probably not the only one who doesn’t know anyone.
Q: Hey Chia! I’m so curious about this: are you religious? Do you believe in God? Do you pray? xoxo
A: I would consider myself more spiritual than religious. I believe in a higher power and pray to whoever may be listening. Is it God? Maybe? Who really even knows.
Q: Hey Chia, what are all of your hobbies?
A: I love to colour and do a bunch of hot yoga!
Q: I was just wondering about your choice of career and was your family cool with it? Because right now I’m thinking of pursuing a career completely different from what my family want me to do and it’s kinda bringing me down, since I don’t really want to disappoint them or make them unhappy. Since they mean a lot to me and I often put their opinions first in usually everything that I do. But I also want to pursue my dream and potentially be happy! Soo, I’m just wondering if you had any advice for me and on what I should do?
Hope to hear from you soon! Love all the way from Norway!
A: This is always a tough situation. Of course pleasing your family is important, but you also have to please yourself. At the end of the day, your family isn’t going to live your life, you are. I didn’t have a problem with this choosing my career because I followed my mothers foot steps. Have you considered sitting down and having a real conversation with your family?
Q: My question for you is what do you use for your eyebrows?! I am in love with how you do your makeup and would love to know the details!
A: Okay okay, I’ll share my secrets with you. I use a dark brown pencil to outline the bottom of my brows. Then I go in with some dark brown pomade and fill those puppies in real nice. After that I set with with a brow gel and had a little highlighter to my brow bone. Stay tuned for my fully detailed brow post, coming soon!
Q: Hey chia, so I love nails! But my only problem is I’m a registered dental assistant && I’m constantly washing my hands. I try to use hand sanitizer but I’m such a germ freak I wash my hands right after. My question is what products do you think is best to use so that the gel doesn’t chip off or my acrylic doesn’t lift?
A: Hello there! So, I love nails too! With being an esthetician, I’m constantly washing my hands after every client and I find that I hardly ever have an issue with my product lifting or chipping. It’s hard to say because I don’t know the process in which your nails are done, but you shouldn’t have issues. There are many factors that go into nails chipping or lifting. Some factors could be application, the integrity of your own natural nails, type of gloves you’re wearing with your work, or simply just constant pressure applied to certain nails with your work instruments (for example, people who apply a lot of pressure to certain fingers when they hold a pen can cause that corner of the nail to lift). My one suggestion is to continue to wash your hands normally (as you should for hygienic reasons), but make sure you’re nails are hydrated with an application of oil at least twice daily. Olive oil or coconut oil work best for me! Sometimes the a little moisture will make all the difference.
Q: Chia, do you watch the skits Tim makes when he’s kissing or talking about sex with another girl? && when he becomes a Hollywood movie star do you think you’ll be okay if he does sex scenes?
A: Haha, I get this question a lot. The thing is when you start to date an actor you have to accept their work life. If you are someone who can’t deal with the added pressure on the relationship then you shouldn’t date an actor. It’s simple, really. =)
Q: Have any advice for a guy whose about to graduate college with a bachelor’s, lookin for a job in his degree field of business operations with little real world experience tryna really start his own life.
Just kinda wanna hear any advice or thoughts on this.
A: First of all, congratulations! Graduating high school is a big deal and college is an even bigger deal. Second of all, I guess my only advice is apply for as many jobs as you can if you want to hop right into working or if you want to travel, then travel my dude! Sometimes taking a break after college is a good thing before you go straight into your career. It all depends what you want for yourself right now. As far as real world experience goes, well that kinda just happens with time. Don’t rush it, life goes by fast enough.
Q: Have you ever done a youtube channel for yourself before (like even before tim)? Or Have you ever done on camera, tv stuff like a commercial or something?
A: I’ve never done YouTube stuff! I’ve also never have done anything with TV or commercials.
Q: Hopefully this isn’t too personal! But I was just wondering what your plans are in the next few years in terms of residency. Are you moving in with Tim in LA or are you staying the great white north?
A: LA, all day! That’s one day my plan, who knows when that will happen, though. Tim and I are chillin’ right now in our relationship so there’s need to rush a good thing. 😉
Q: Hi Chia! What’s your favorite Canadian and Ethiopian food? -TL
A: Oh man, tough question! I’m going to have to say poutine for Canadian food and injera for Ethiopian food. Mmm, yummy!!
Q: Hey Chia!…first off I think that you are an awesome girl, classy, and very down to earth. I was wondering if you are more of a party girl or a chilled girl?
A: Thank you so much! I am way more chill than I am a party girl. I honestly love to do nothing, like all the time lol. Of course I love going out for a drink with my girls or my boyfriend once in awhile, but if I had to choose between going out and staying in, I’d choose staying in like 80% of the time. The best part of being such a chill person is that I never get bored, so I can literally do nothing all day long. I love when someone cancels their plans with me because I’m probably still in my sweats just dreading getting ready. =)
Q: Hey chia I’m nervous to ask but here I go lol. So one time I heard you say on Tim’s vlog that you have cankles. Is this true? If so how did you get over it and wear whatever you want. I’m about the same size as you and I have cankles and always have. I have done everything from climbing steps on my tip toes, squatting til I couldn’t squat no more (which has helped in other ways lol) and I even thought about having surgery. I have people in my life that are great and tell me it’s not that serious but I still get really nervous wearing skirts or shorts in the summertime because I feel like everyone is looking straight at my sticks. What do I do!?!
A: It’s so true, I dislike my cankles so much! I just had to move on from the hatred because I know there is nothing I can do about it. The only thing I can advise is try to find sandals with an ankle strap and that will pair nicely with shorts or skirts. It cinches just perfectly to give the illusion of an ankle. Honestly, I know you hate them, but maybe you just have to accept them for what they are…just like me. Trust me when I say, no one is looking at your “sticks” except for you. Try to move on, girl!
Q: Hi Chia, have you ever tried weed and why?
A: Yes, one time in my life. I was 16 years old and it was with my best friend at the time because we were both curious! Haven’t done it since…I didn’t like the feeling it gave my body.
Q: Hey Chia, hope you’re doing great today I really wanna know the story of how you came to own your own business with the nails. And also how you got so good at making the nail designs !!!
A: I’ll post this story soon. As far as the designs go…lots and lots of practise!
Q: Hola! Can you post a tutorial about how you do your makeup? Would love to see it especially your eyebrows!
A: Hola! Oh sure, why not! One of these days.
Q: Was the music video for Tim’s song C.H.I.A. Based on how he asked you to be his girlfriend? And do you listen to that song often? That’s something I wonder each and every time I listen to it 🙂
A: It wasn’t based on how he asked me to be his girlfriend. It was shot at the airport because Tim felt that airports represented our relationship. I definitely listen to the song every now and then…more times than not. =)
Q: Why did you decide to do a blog verses starting your own Youtube Channel? Will you ever do a youtube channel (makeup and clothing hauls…as if we don’t have enough of them…but I digress)? I know you love being an Esthetician/Nail Artist…would you ever want to come up with your own line of products?
A: Well, YouTube is still very much not my world. Not only that but, YouTube is so time consuming! Especially for girls because we have to make sure our hair and makeup always looks perfect before we shoot lol. I run my own business and that’s exhausting enough. Blogging is a little more forgiving and it’s a good way for me to share things with my audience all while running my full time business. As far as my own line of product goes…maybe one day. Who knows! There’s always room for more, right?
Q: Hi Chia! I would just like to know how you started your own business and built up your clientele. I am an Esthetician and I am venturing out to start my own business in Texas I would love any advice that you have Thank you!
A: Hello! Great question. I have a whole post coming soon about this, but I’ll give you some pointers in the mean time. I was fortunate enough to have an aunt in the business for 10 years and after I graduated, I apprenticed under her. I worked my ASS off to make sure every client I saw would stick with me. I did a good job, smiled, engaged in conversation, and more importantly I always made an extra effort to book their next appointment before they left. Hard work pays off, girl! GRIND.
Q: There are two parts to my question: how did you know that Tim would be “the one” for you and what is the best piece of advice you can give about relationships and love?
A: Oh man, I think it’s kind of hard to tell people how they’e found the one because it’s more so a feeling you get. I knew when distance didn’t matter and I was willing to put in extra time and money into the long distance relationship. The best advice I can offer is make sure you trust and communicate the best you can and make sure it’s given back to you in return.
Q: Hey Chia, first of all, I love you and Tim’s story, it’s so cute. And I also think it’s super cool that you’ve started a blog.I myself had one, but then grew so frustrated and bored with it, so my question is, how do you mange yours in terms of topics to things to post about, and your posting schedule?
A: I honestly will write about anything. A funny story, lip gloss I like, food I like, literally anything that pops into my head, I’ll write about it. I’ll try to post twice a week, depending on my schedule. It’s important to be consistent, so always having content just waiting to be posted is the best thing. I find that saving them in a draft is handy. If ever you have writer’s block you have a whole pre written selection to choose from!
Q: Hey chia cold you please tell me which site you used to created your blogs thank you
A: Oh man, I tried to start up my blog by myself using iPages and WordPress. Then I got confused at one point because there were so many technical questions when linking domains and emails so, I had to call in help! Luckily, I was put into contact with someone who fixed everything for me and he handled all the set up and back end. To my knowledge I’m using iPages, WordPress, and FlyWheel?!?!
Q: Hey Chia!absolutely gorgeous and you always make me laugh when you’re in Tim’s vlogs. My question to you is, what is your diet and workout routines like? You seem so fit and you have a beautiful body. I would love to hear back from you!
A: Thank you so much! I will be totally honest in saying that running your own business keeps you busy. With that, I snack a lot through the day as opposed to sitting down and having an actual meal. I eat quick foods to keep me going. Tons of veggies, fruits, nuts, salads, and also a lot of protein smoothies because it takes no time out of my day. As far as my workout goes I have so many Beach Body DVD’s like Insanity, 21 Day Fix, T25, and the list goes on. One of my favourite workouts though, is hot yoga. I love to do hot flow classes with a temperature around 100F. I get such a good sweat on and it relieves so much tension throughout my body. It’s challenging and relaxing all at the same time.
Q: Do you enjoy to read? If so, what’s your all time favorite book?
A: I do! It’s hard for me to find the time to sit down and read because I’m just a busy body, but I read lots when I travel. I love books about addictions. It’s such a dark topic, but it breaks my heart knowing people lose the ability to say no and get help for themselves. I’m going to to a post about my favourite books, so stay tuned for that!
Q: My question is, I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for over a year now.. He had some things happen that called him to move back home (across the world from me – USA-Ph) so now we’re stuck in a place of trying to figure out if LD is for us. We both don’t believe it in but really feel we have something special so it might be worth a shot. But don’t want to end up ending on bad terms because we were friends before hand & would like to remain friends no matter what the future holds for us. Any tips of deciding what the right choice is? Thanks!! (:
A: Firstly, it sounds like you guys both want it to work. I think you owe it to yourselves to at least give it a try. Some people can handle it and some people can’t. If you guys succeed, great! If you don’t, then you can end the relationship on good terms knowing you tried and it’s just not working out for the both of you. Ending a relationship doesn’t have to be a bad thing, sometimes it’s for the best. Follow your heart…good luck.
Q: My young sister is starting to go through that elementary stage whereas she wants to be “popular” and I want to tell her that it’s best to be herself and no one but that, but then I know she will eventually learn that sometimes she may not be allowed to be herself, you know, in order not to offend people. My problem is that I want to keep it real and I really don’t want to bullshit my sister even though she’s so young so I’m just wondering if you might know how to explain it to her? In a way that’s not me giving her false info. I want her to know how life sometimes is but I don’t want to break her little spirit. I don’t like my sis worrying about “being popular” either but she’s young.
A: Well aren’t you such a nice brother. Although, I’m not sure what you mean by “she may not be allowed to be herself”. Everyone should be who they want to be regardless of what other people may think. The thing you can never please everyone, so you might as well just be your own person and not be a certain way just to fit in. That’s exactly what I would say to her, “Be you, girl!”
Q: Hey Chia!! Other than your hometown and Toronto, where else in Canada would you want to travel to with Tim?
A: Ummm, I’ve never been farther east than Toronto, so I’d love to maybe check out the Maritimes! I hear it’s beautiful.
Q: I should seen this before I sent the other message lol, can you please give me tips on how to keep my relationship of two and a half years going after I move to California in 2 days? I’m a new Marine so I’m not used to being away from my girlfriend, don’t think I’ll ever be used to it but maybe some advice would help. Your relationship with Tim gives me hope lol. Thank you so much!
A: Wow. This will be a tough one for you guys, especially if you’re not used to spending time apart. The best thing I can recommend is lots of communication. Texting and FaceTime goes a long way. You’ll want to keep each other up to date on your days and especially the transition. I hope your trust is strong because it will be tested now more than ever. Lastly, planning your visits will be key! Having something to look forward to keep things exciting. Best of luck!
Q: Like you, I’m also in a biracial relationship. Was there any culture clash as you and Tim became serious in your relationship?
A: Not at all. Everything about our relationship has been very organic and…easy if you will.
Q: How do you trust timothy
A: Easy! It’s part of a healthy relationship. If you can’t trust the person you’re dating then that just opens up a whole lot of issues.
Q: Have you thought about becoming a model?
A: No, it’s not my thing!
Q: How do you deal with jealousy?
A: I get these types of questions a lot. I’m naturally not a jealous person, so I don’t necessarily have to deal with anything because it’s not an issue in my mind. If ever something where to bother me regarding my relationship, I just voice myself and hope that we can resolve the problem and move on.
Q: What interested you about doing nails?
A: Well, I was lucky enough to know what I wanted to do after high school while I was still in highschool. My mother and sister are estheticians, so I grew up around the industry. It just so happened that I wanted to follow suit and here I am!
Q: Hey chia! Let me start off with saying that I think you’re absolutely gorgeous and your personality is just something I really love. You’re really chill and outgoing. I look up to you a lot. I haven’t really been happy with myself and I feel like I’m still not ready to get out of my comfort zone. Me and my boyfriend have been Together for 5 years but I feel like I have become someone else and he doesn’t know how to deal with it and I don’t either. We’ve had a few problems before but I feel like part is my fault because I can be kinda jealous and overreact over totally nothing. What do I do? How to I gain more confidence and how can I be more happy with myself? I feel like I’ve been losing confidence and I’m just so insecure about everything. Thanks for this blog I already love it.
A: Thank you so much! By the sounds it I gather that you weren’t jealous in the beginning because you’ve “become a different person”. What made you become more jealous and insecure? Perhaps it’s the relationship that’s weighing you down and you’re scared to lose him. You need to get the relationship back to where it used to be if it’s something worth saving. Maybe when you rekindle those feelings you will feel more secure about yourself and the relationship.
Q: Hey Chia! Quick question — how do you feel about dating a guy that’s the same height as you? I love that you aren’t like typical girls that box themselves into the “6 foot – 6 pack required” box
A: We aren’t the same height! I think Tim has like…1.5-2 inches on me haha! Height is so irrelevant, to be totally honest.
Q: Dear Chia,
My name is Melissa. I wasn’t really into blogs until I’ve seen that you made one. Lol. Of course, I had to check it out because your boyfriend just happens to be one of my favorite Youtubers 🙂 I don’t normally open up to just anyone, so you’d have to be the first one. Anyways, I’m in a long distance relationship. Still pretty young. I’m only 19. My boyfriend & I have been going out for two years. Everything has been pretty good. My boyfriend is also 19 & will be finishing school by June. At least, he was suppose to be. Finishing high school. It’s a long story of why he is still in high school. So, he decided to drop out. I never really thought that he would drop out. But, it’s happening. I’m not sure of what to do or how to think about all this. Just asking for some advice from someone who is in a long distance relationship.
A: Well I’m glad you feel like you can talk to me. Hmm…it’s definitely upsetting to not graduate high school, not only for that person, but for the people around them. I hope you’ve had a discussion with him to get down to the bottom of it. Graduating should be top priority for young adults. Since I don’t know the full story it’s a little difficult to comment on whether the long distance is worth it or not.
Q: Chia… I’ve been struggling to figure out what I want to do with my life, career wise. I’m leaning towards cosmetology, especially hair and esthetics. Everyone around me is saying its a bad choice and that I’ll be tired and broke. I know part of your profession is dealing with cosmetology. Any advice??
A: Why would you be tired and broke?! Don’t listen to people lol. Do what you want to do. If beauty is what you love then damnit do it girl!! I’ve made a good living for myself doing esthetics…so tell those people saying otherwise that they trippin’!
Q: Hey there chia, first off I would like to say I admire you for the person you are and I believe you and Tim ‘s relationship is perfect. So I would like a advice for my relationship I just got into. So I met this guy on the tango app, he added me on facebook and we had each other on there for 2years but never really talked, we just liked each others pictures. Until this year on Dec I decided to poke him on facebook and he msged and we started talking. We automatically felt a connection and we have so many things in common. He is 10 years older then me, I’m 21 and he is 31 and he lives about an hr away. We talked for 3weeks, and decided to spend new years together. Which we did and we ended meeting up with his sister at a restaurant and we got along and it was a great night. We had our new years kiss and he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I was abit scared to be honest just because I hadn’t been in a relationship in a long time and I was just scared of getting hurt. But I just have a feeling he will treat me right and he seemed very sincere with his feelings and thoughts. I know I’m still young but I want to settle down and be with someone who will love me and grow old together and so does he. He treats me like a princess and I love it, I just don’t want to tell my family about him yet just bc they will judge me or think I’m crazy for dating a older guy and start making all these scenarios. I know you and Tim have made your relationship work being long distance and I would love it if you gave me advice on the relationship I just got in. Thanks chia hope to hear from you soon
A: Hello! Well, I think what you need to do is make decisions with your heart, but also your head. A 10 year age gap really isn’t that significant, but it sounds more when one person is still quite young. If you feel right about the relationship then you should be upfront with your parents. They will probably think you’re insane, but then again they might not. There’s nothing worse than when you keep something from your parents and they end up feeling disappointed because you didn’t come to them sooner. Your parents are there to talk to and to guide you. You’re still young and have lots of learning yet to do, so don’t enter the relationship just because he’s the first guy to treat you well. Be smart and more importantly be honest to yourself. =)
Q: Chia, honestly have you always been so open minded in your previous relationships or was it sothing you kind of learned with Tim. The whole him being around chicks & you not being there. I guess what I’m trying to ask is how do you do it? How can one not be jelous ?
A: I get this question A LOT. The secret is…I’m just not a jealous person. I fully understand Tim’s work and I wouldn’t be in a relationship with him if I couldn’t handle it. If you’re naturally a jealous person then I feel like there’s not much you can do about it. Yes, you can work on it, but it’s just part of who you are. Does that make sense?
Q: Would you leave your current bf (Tim) for Channing Tatum?
A: HELL YEAH. LOOOOL. Just kidding, I really wouldn’t.
Q: Hey Chia. This might not be the type of question you are expecting but… Yeah.
So I have been living a life which I’m not so happy with. I can’t remember any point in my life where I’ve been really, and genuinely happy.
I think my biggest struggle is myself. I’m very insecure about myself. Very very insecure. I should say, mainly about my face. My face is (I’m gonna say it) horrific. Trust me. My smile is even more horrific. How am I supposed to smile and be happy when I hate my own smile?
I’m 5’3″ too, brunette, pear body, just a bit lighter than you. It’s not my body or things like that, it’s my face. It feels like I will never be able to accept my face and it feels like I’ll never be happy. Why me? I don’t really do much in our daily lives and… I don’t think you want to hear any more of this b******. I don’t want to annoy you.
This might sound so creepy, but at times I wish I were you. You are beautiful. In and out. You seem to live a happy life. You have love; a boyfriend, parents, siblings, friends… I have none of that. You have a job you love. I don’t. You have hobbies, beauty. I sound stupid, I know. But I’m just this close on giving up on life. What would you do in my position, if you were an “ugly” girl?
A: Thanks for writing me and I’m glad I can be someone you can talk to. You should first and foremost work on your inner self. You need to focus on something that makes you happy so that you can shine on the outside. What are your talents? What do you like to do? The problem is girls focus so much on our physical appearances and it’s sad, but we’ve been brainwashed. It’s constantly drilled into our heads that we have to look and be a certain way and we, as girls, need to stop comparing ourselves to another people. It’ll make you go crazy. It breaks my heart when girls say they want to end their life just because they feel like they aren’t beautiful. Do something everyday for yourself that makes you happy. Maybe you paint your nails a pretty colour or dance to your favourite song…whatever it is make sure you smile and think of yourself when you do it. You need to start thinking of the positives instead of the negatives because if you think negative, that’s all you’ll see. You’d be surprised how many positives you can come up with in one day if you start thinking about it. So, can we try that for starters. Promise?
Q: Are you and Tim ever gonna move in together ?
A: Of course! I don’t know when, but yes! I’ll keep you posted.
|Q: When do you want to get married and have kids?|
A: Who knoooows. I feel like you can’t really put a time on those sorts of things because things just have their own way of working out. Maybe married before 30 and a kid at 30?!? Definitely married before kids, though. I’m traditional like that. That’s my guess, let’s see what happens.
Q: Hey Chia! How was your high school life?
A: My high school life was cool! I was friends with everyone and I didn’t associated myself with a particular clique. I was very much a floater, which was cool because you have soo many more friends to hang out with. I rarely skipped class because I was afraid of getting in trouble, lol. So, it only made sense that I graduated with honours. I wasn’t involved with extra curricular activities at all, so after school I would go straight home and do my homework! Am I cool, or what?! =)
Q: Hi Chia! I’m so excited you started a blog 🙂 Your skin is absolutely gorgeous, so I was wondering what are your favorite skincare products?
A: Hello! Thank you! I use so many different brands it’s hard to keep track. My mains would be Sothy’s, Skin Ceuticals, and Zo Skin Health. From these lines I use a combination of cleansers, toners, serums, eye creams, neck creams, night creams, antioxidant treatments, and everything else in between. I’m a sucker for skin care, so I love to try everything!
Q: Hi chia!! I’ve been following you for quite sometime now! You’re a true inspiration for me in my relationship, I’m also in a long distance relationship that starts May 9, 2012. I plan on moving to Orange County, CA with my boyfriend. (When the time is right) we are in no rush, lol. Ok, back to my question…. Does it make you nervous to eventually move to LA with Tim? Thanks you ?
A: Yaaay, I’m glad to hear that you are in no rush! Rushing into something is just silly and adds way too much extra stress on an already stressful situation! Moving for someone is huge! I’m not nervous at all to move to LA. I’ve been flying to LA constantly for over 4 years, so it already feels like home!
Q: In your opinion, what is Tim’s nest quality and what’s the best thing he’s brought out in you?
A: Good question. Tim is a very humble and optimistic person. He’s very stress-free, laid back, and dreams big! I would say he keeps me motivated. Everyday he’s always doing something to better his career and it’s so contagious to watch. He makes me want to be a better person because that’s what he strives for. It’s fun being able to support each other in our careers and life choices.
Q: Hey Chia your IG brought me here! I love your curly hair (don’t get me wrong I love your straight hair too). I was wondering what everyday products do you use and how often do you wash your hair?
A: Hello August, thanks for reading! I have a whooooole post coming about what I use on my hair. Mixed Chicks is my absolute favourite. When it comes to washing my hair, I wash twice a week typically. I have super dry hair, so I don’t like to wash too often because I feel like it becomes drier. My natural oils help to keep my hair hydrated!
Q: Hey Chia!
This isn’t a question but I just wanted to drop you a quick message and say that you’re awesome. It’s no secret that you’re an absolute stunner, but I always enjoy seeing you in Tim’s videos also due to the fact that you seem super wise and well-spoken. There’s also a vibe about you that is very positive, right down to the soul! I love reading blogs and now that you’ve started one up, I’m beyond excited to see the posts rolling in. You also have a gift for writing, I must say! Alright, enough with the incessant compliments. Hope this doesn’t come across /too/ creepy haha.
Have a fantastic new year and may 2016 bring nothing but the best in store for you and your loved ones!
A: Well thank you, Renae! You’re so sweet! It took me awhile to even speak while Tim vlogged, so I’m glad to know that you enjoy watching! Stay tuned for more posts!